Are you indoors and do you want to make new friends, but you don't know how? 

Learn how to make friends online, in a way that suits you!

To give everyone the opportunity to learn how to make friends online, our content is available for free.

Have you achieved your desired result, or do you want us to grow faster, please support us with a donation! If you donate, I can help even more people make friends.


How does it work?

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Weekly updates

Every week new content will be posted on this page. Get started with this content en keep track of what does and what does not work for you. We are all different, and what works for you might not work for someone else.


You do not need to leave your house for these action points. All you need is a computer or smartphone, a headset (or headphones and a microphone), and a working internet connection. 

2

Give clear feedback

Over the past years, I have helped people make friends on a small scale with CNCT21C. In a time where many of us stay at home, I want to share my knowledge and experience for free to be able to help as many people as possible. However, to be able to provide the best coaching for your individual situation, I will need your help.


Every week, let me know:

- What you're missing on my platform

- What you're struggling with despite the tips

- What went well

(Feedback in general is highly appreciated, and it also helps you keep track of your progress if you note this down for yourself!)

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Support CNCT21C

Hi! My name is Wesley, and I am the person behind CNCT21C. I have a full-time job to be able to stay independent with my startup. You can help CNCT21C by giving me and my small team the time to process your feedback and answer your questions. 


My goal is to give you the best experience and tools to make real friends. However, to grow we do depend on donations. Don't worry, if you simply don't have the budget, please don't feel obliged! But if you do, your donation is very welcome. 


With these donations we can provide better support for people who have a lower income, such as 1 on 1 coaching for those in very tough situations. We can also improve our website and services!


You can donate on our Patreon page. Here, you can also become a patron and help us with a monthly donation. To show our gratitude, some donation programs include rewards, such as a 1 on 1 Skype call so we can help you with your personal situation. 



"Making Friends Online" Week 1:


Find a multiplayer game you like, in which you can interact with others, such as a game in which you can play quests or missions with others.


To help you out, here are some platforms that have live chat options. (You can do this without chat, but being able to chat makes it much easier.)


- Steam (for PC gamers) 

- Nvidia Geforce Now

- Xbox

- PlayStation


If you have chosen a platform and a game to play, choose the multiplayer option.


The important thing is to choose a quest, adventure or mission in which you need other players to complete it. 


When you've started your game, you can choose to start a chat or voice-chat. 

Tip: Start with the regular chat, and build up to 1 to 1 voice-chat.

Keep reading to find out how to do this! 


* Warning* 

For your own safety, there are some things you should and shouldn't do.


What should you NOT do?

- Do not exchange phone numbers straight away. Keep your conversation within the game's chat box. 

- Do not give your full name. 

- Do not send pictures of yourself or people you know.  

- Do not say where you go to school or where you work.

- Do not give money or any personal details to people you talk to in a chat. Do not give anyone your address, birthday, bank account number, etcetera. It might be obvious, but I want to stress the importance of this. Just don't do it.


What can you do? 

- Ask how someone's day has been. 

- Have a conversation about the game.  

- When someone asks where you live, name a town nearby. When someone asks where you go to school or what kind of work you do, say you'd rather talk about the game or talk about something else. 


Starting the conversation: 


  1. With the chat contacts you already have or that you have made, propose to take on a mission together, or go on a quest in the game. Point out that talking during a quest is easier over voice-chat. 

2.   In the multiplayer section of the online game that you play, try to join a group to complete missions or quests with. 


Then, you can propose to talk using voice-chat, because this is easier. You can then ask for tips and tricks, or how they would like to tackle this mission together.


Having a conversation:


Having a conversation with someone new can bring you some tension or nerves. The good thing is that when you do it more often, it becomes easier, it will cost you less energy, and you won't be as nervous.  


What could you talk about? 


- Always introduce yourself. For safety reasons I would only use your first name and the country where you live. Don't mention where you live, keep it superficial. If you do want to mention a town or city, mention a larger city near where you live. 


- Then, ask where he or she is from, and what it's like over there, or how they are doing. 


- Ask what their favorite missions or quests are in the game, and why he or she loves to play this game. 


- If you want to go on a mission or quest together, ask if they have a plan, or discuss what assignment or mission you want to do together.  


An example of how such a conversation could go:

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Hi! I am Alex and I am from the Netherlands. 


Where are you from? 

(other player replies)


Oh cool, how is it going there?

(other player replies)


I wanted to start with quest X, have you played this one already?

(other player replies)

(If yes:) How did you succeed the mission, any tips? 

(If no:) Up till now, what was the most awesome mission you played? 

(other player replies)


(Share your own coolest mission) I really enjoyed mission … I really like the part where ….

(other player replies)


Shall we play this quest together? 

(other player replies)


Ending the conversation:

Depending on whether you will take on a mission together, your conversation can last for about two minutes, or two hours. 


Keep in mind that you always end a conversation well. Do this by thanking the other person for the conversation. If you had a nice time, you can ask to speak again, for example, later this week, or next week.


Example:

Unfortunately I really have to go but I enjoyed speaking with you. Would you like to meet again next week for another mission? 

At this point, our CNCT21C team is quite small. I will answer most questions myself. However, because I work full-time I am only available to respond to phone calls and emails in the evenings and on weekends. I kindly ask for your patience: depending on the amount of messages I receive, it may take me a little while to get back to you.

Kind regards, 

Wesley
(Founder of CNCT21C)



About us

Founder of CNCT21C 

Wesley

Hi! My name is Wesley, and I help people make friends :)

Why?

 

Over the past years, many people approached me with questions on how to make friends, after they saw me at parties, events or walking around. It is easy for me to make contact with people. This hasn't always been this way, it is a skill that I have learned. Because I have experienced how hard it can be if you do not have good friends around you and how great it feels when you have fantastic friends, I want to help others with this. Not just some tips and tricks, but real tools to help you make real friends.


It is not as easy as it seems. Everyone has their own insecurities and obstacles. What works well for one person might not work at all for someone else. When you learn the skill of making friends, you will not be alone anymore. Unless you choose to completely isolate yourself from others of course, which I do not recommend.


To be able to help more people, I have been working together with the Erasmus Centre for Entrepreneurship since 2018, where I have given most of my workshops.


The information on this website is only the start: you will need to put in some effort. I will give you the tools and tips you need to build your own friendships, at home, from your computer. 


Unfortunately, I cannot give any guarantees. I cannot guarantee that after following these steps, you will have a large group of friends. But I do give it my utmost best to make sure you get the tips you need to bring you a step closer to real, lasting friendships.